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KABUL (SW): I did not get pregnant after marriage. My relatives advised me to go to a doctor and receive treatment. Nothing worked and I became an example among the women. Everyone was talking how wretched I am for not producing a child for my husband. I was the subject of many tricks and scams and nobody supported me. Even my husband who had always said he loved me, however, finally he also said: “this is your problem, and you have to fight it yourself”.
I was helpless and poor, the environment around my house was agonizing, and this dam infertility thing made my life miserable. For many years I tried to get treatment and there was no doctor that I haven’t visited, however, nothing worked. I even went to receive help from magicians and Mullahs. However, there was no sign of pregnancy. The pressure of the family shaded my husband’s attitude towards me as well. His parents wanted him to marry another woman, however, he denied.
Years have passed and we emigrated to Iran due to the ongoing war. I didn’t give up the desire for treatment and eventually, I visited the experienced doctors in Iran.
After multiple examinations and tests, the obstetrician and gynecologist said that you are completely healthy and your husband must be tested.
I spoke to my husband. At first he did not want to accept that the problem was with him, however, the examination made it clear that he was infertile. Unfortunately, in our society the mere belief that every problem lies with the women causes them to believe that they are always at fault, and for years this made me suffer too, from a flaw that was not in me.
The results of the examinations made me feel even more exhausted. I did not believe that I spent fifteen years of my life tolerating all the misogyny and misfortune, not knowing that even I didn’t need the treatment but my husband did. I am fifty years old now, and the pain caused due to the side effects of all the medicines and drugs I used for fertility, burn my bones.
However, I have two children now. I adopted them four years ago when they were only babies. They don’t know that I am not their biological mother. But I love them more than my life. I want them to be raised properly and educated. I expect them to treat their spouses with respect and dignity once they are grown up and married.
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